Ladies, stop getting upset when you see your ex treat the next correctly…..
a different way to look at things
Relationships come and go and are things that most of us have been in and out of since we we’re jits (young kids). For me my first real relationship came when I was in the sixth grade. Since that time I’ve had numerous other relationships and even one marriage to count over the course of my 29 year existence. That’s neither here nor there, because I say all that to say this. I am not the same man(boy) I was when I first started dating. In fact, I have literally transitioned from boyhood into manhood while dating here and there. Meanwhile, as I’ve grown and matured as a person in general throughout life, I’d like to think that I’ve also grown as a partner. Therefore, I’d personally like to say that I don’t like when women (mainly online) say things along the lines of “men only act right for the women that they want”. Basically they want to push the narrative that a woman can be with a man and do everything for him as far as cook, clean, sex, etc etc and that same man will still leave her and do everything for a different woman that she(the current woman) was hoping he’d do for her. Personally I have a few complaints with this; one being that even if we as men treat the next woman right or “better” it doesn’t mean that we preferred or like her more than we did the last woman. It’s much more easily a situation where we evaluated ourselves based on what and where we went wrong in our previous relationships, seeking to learn from the mistakes we made. Secondly, another issue I have with women pushing this narrative is that it seems like women use it as an excuse to alleviate themselves from responsibility in any future relationships they fall in. My third and final issue with this new mindset amongst modern day women is that it seems they’re afraid to be giving what they feel like is their all into relationships that ultimately don’t workout. Now this one, on the surface, seems like a pretty darn good reason to not rush for commitment. In contrast, however, I want to dig a little deeper into this mindset while also giving a little bit of my personal experience. For me, I’ve been in relationships where I’ve given I’ve given my all and got played. Throughout my time dating women I’ve bought school clothes, toys, helped pay for birthday parties, paid all the bills, and even put a down payment on a car for women that I’d been involved with at the time. Do I regret it? Yes to an extent. Would I do it again? Yes but for the right person ( I ignored the red flags). Either way, however, I’ll never take any negative experience I had in a previous relationship to a new one and give myself an excuse to half step. Maybe in between those relationships I may have needed time to recover before hoping back into another one, but if that was the case then that’s what I did.
This is just my opinion and take on the state of modern day women with this mindset. Like I say don’t take it personal when you see your ex treating the new woman right because maybe he learned and is growing since you two dated. Not only that, but maybe you as a woman have some things from the relationship that you did or didn’t do that needs assessment so that you can be a better partner. But that’s another topic for another day. Anyways, I hope you all enjoy the read and hopefully it gives you a different take. Peace.
